Marriage Unhindered

Monica Hinderer joins Doug to continue their discussion on how children impact marriage. Today they focus on conflicts over parenting styles. Listener questions and comments: Mark - My folks were united but pretty strict, and I rarely saw them disagree about how to raise their children. Maybe being united isn’t always what it seems. (20:27) Pete - As I got older, I began to understand the discipline and sacrifices my parents made for me. That’s what motivated me to step up and work harder. I came from a family of seven kids. (26:18) Joan - My husband and I had different parenting styles. Three of our children are gay, and they barely talk to us anymore. I resent my husband because I tried to raise our kids in the faith, but he didn’t share that commitment. Do you think that made a difference? (27:35) Monica - My daughter is overprotective in her parenting. She has two girls, ages 3½ years and 1 month old. (38:48) Julie - For those of us who are remarried in the Church, with children from previous marriages…

Doug answers a listener’s email about ending a relationship with someone who may have a behavioral disorder, then continues a series on how the devil attacks marriages. He also discusses the Four Horsemen of relationship conflict and when to seek professional help. Listener questions and comments: Kim: My 20-year-old son is dealing with a situation similar to the man in the email. What should I do? (17:36) Maria: My husband and I are separated because we do not get along. He frequently talks to other women, makes new friends, and seeks platonic relationships with them. (38:03) Resources: The International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy https://iceeft.com/ Four Common Tactics of the Devil https://spiritualdirection.com/2025/11/16/four-common-tactics-of-the-devil https://catholictherapists.com/ https://catholicpsychotherapy.org/

Doug begins a two-part series on the 4 tactics the devil uses to destroy marriages. Listener questions and comments: Mary - My husband is considering divorce after an affair, saying the other woman gives him “a feeling” he can’t explain. Our hearing is Friday, and I’ve asked him to pause and reconsider, but he’s unsure what to do. (20:48) Sebastian - How can I apply this concept of the devil’s influence to my situation, where my wife and I seem divided in our views of marriage and family life after several years of marriage and raising five children? (34:39) Nancy – My second husband and I have been married for 31 years; both having come from difficult marriages. A quote by Bonhoeffer about marriage deeply resonated with me, giving me a beautiful sense of its purpose: not just romantic love, but a commitment to responsibility, mutual support, and the greater good of the world. (44:57) Resources: Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/ Four Common Tactics of the Devil…

Mary Bruno joins Doug to discuss her book, Twelve Stripes Deep: How Infertility & Other Suffering Delivered My Greatest Joys. Resources: Mary Bruno https://marygbruno.com/ NaPro Technology https://naprotechnology.com/ FAbM Base https://fabmbase.org Twelve Stripes Deep: How Infertility & Other Suffering Delivered My Greatest Joys https://bit.ly/47vFyPP

Dr. Pamela Patnode joins Doug to discuss her book, Beyond Burnout: Learning Balance from the Rule of St. Benedict. They define burnout, discuss the impact of burnout on marriage and share practical solutions. Listener questions and comments: Simon - I struggle with procrastination and when I try to put it off it will make it worse instead of doing it quick. (24:00) Deedee - Did St. Benedict believe in perfect order? (36:11) Resources: Beyond Burnout: Learning Balance from the Rule of St. Benedict https://orderosv.com/product/beyond-burnout-learning-balance-from-the-rule-of-st-benedict?ga_ref_list_id=taxonomy_3_term_94ga_ref_list_name=Taxonomy%20Term:%20Books

Monica Hinderer joins Doug to continue their conversation about how children impact marriage, focusing on how busy moms can maintain a prayer life while still focusing on raising their children. Steve - My son is getting married to his live-in protestant girlfriend and they are not getting married in the Church. Her mother is also a pastor. (12:25) Mary - Find the moments in the day where you can pray even in busy times. (28:35) Kristen - I have 9 kids and I battle this as well. I pray a morning offering just in case I don’t get anything else done. (32:43) Mariana - I am a mom of 3 under 4 and I have some advice. (38:48) Resources: Should I Attend THAT Wedding? https://relevantradio.com/2026/10/should-i-attend-that-wedding/

Doug shares tips for what to do if your wife refuses to forgive you. He also discusses how faith filled marriages produce the happiest couples. Listener questions and comments: Lucy - We have been married for 5 years but we don’t have children. It gets depressing during the holidays. (3:39) Marie - My ex-husband says that I like to bring up the past. What do I do to talk about this stuff? (10:14) Rachel - Comment for Lucy: I wanted to share Springs in the Desert that helps infertile couples. (16:43) Lydia - I think healing has to happen sometimes before the problem can be forgotten. (18:51) David - My wife and I have been married for 5 years and we have been dealing with infertility but we bonded in our faith by trusting God. (25:00) Beth - How can I address things that continue to happen. How do you avoid bringing up the past when addressing a current issue. (39:56) Resources: Springs in the Desert https://springsinthedesert.org/ Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/ Happy Marriage for…

Doug talks about a senior citizen with cancer using contraception. AND could a relationship between a devout churchgoer and lukewarm believer stand a chance? Listener questions and comments: Mary-Worries about radiation spread in regards to condom use for senior citizen (7:22) Mark-Clarifies about condom use for senior citizen with cancer in regards to bodily fluid (8:31) Mark - Using condoms to prevent genetic defect being passed on to next generation (10:17) Anna-My spouse is refusing to go to mass. Everytime I ask him he puts up a fight and the priest said to make mass a cheerful event rather than a fight. (21:48) Anna-Husband being alone with another woman (25:02) Mary-I have been married for 40 years but my husband never went to church and we got a dispensation. He is now catholic though! (28:55) Elaine-I think there is a possibility that this is a problem of spiritual loneliness, when only one spouse goes to mass. (33:58) Jo-I am leaving my parent's house to go live at the homeless shelter. I am going…

Doug discusses the challenges and suffering that can arise in marriage, emphasizing the importance of redemptive suffering and the need to find meaning and purpose in our suffering rather than waste it. Listener questions and comments: Leslie - My husband died of cancer and we didn’t end on a good note. I wonder if he loved me. I need some closure. (19:26) Heidi - I am in a difficult marriage but what helps is to offer up the things that he does to me and then maybe he will suffer less later. (29:50) Mark - Can you clarify the question about children and offering up suffering. (35:02) Joseph - You gave a great answer when somebody was going through suffering and you suggested that she 'be saintly' and suffer well. (37:00) Lara - I don’t think people realize that when you ask for prayer you are hoping to help someone else in your life. (41:35) Resources: Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/ Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/ Rekindled Hearts…

Is it possible for a young bride to be happy in serving her husband? Today, Doug shares advice from Alice Von Hildebrand in her book By Love Refined. Listener question and comments: Jean - My son sent me a no-contact text. How do I respond? (4:07) Irene - I'm in a no-contact situation with two of my boys, and it's been going on for four years. It's just heartbreaking and I can't see my grandchildren. (24:20) Elena - My daughter recently got engaged after dating her fiancé for three years. As they began planning their wedding, he told her that his fear about her mental health and the possibility of it worsening is greater than his love for her. How can I help her navigate this situation? (30:15) Nancy – I was married and was in a very abusive relationship. I learned later that he was addicted to pornography. (48:00) Resources: STRIVE: 21-Day Porn Detox for Men https://www.covenanteyes.com/strive/ Integrity Restored https://integrityrestored.com/ RECLAIM Sexual Health https://www.reclaimsexualhealth.com/ Road…

Monica Hinderer joins Doug to discuss how children impact a marriage. They discuss relationship challenges including the effect on intimacy, finances and identity shifts. Listener questions and comments: Pete - Having kids gave me a reason to work harder. It was the proudest moment of my life. Having people around to support you is helpful. (13:19) Cindy - My sister has been friends with a guy for three years and recently started dating him. They’re already talking about getting married in December. What are your thoughts? Should they date longer? She no longer practices the Catholic faith, and they met at a nondenominational church. (20:56) Mark - What is the best advice I can give to a married couple struggling with sleep deprivation? (46:49) Resources Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/ Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/ Monica Hinderer https://www.monicahinderer.com/ Bringing Baby Home https://www.gottman.com/bringing-baby-home-for-parents/

Steve O’Conner joins Doug to discuss how we can fight pornography use. Listener questions and comments: Mary - From the girlfriend’s side of things what were some things she did to help with your relapse. What were the things that helped him heal before they got married. (21:14) Resources: Catholics Fight Porn https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/ Magdala Ministries https://www.magdalaministries.org/

Doug discusses what is and is not permissible in the bedroom. He also shares tips for those who feel like giving up on their marriage. Listener question and comments: Matthew - I don't condone coercion but I don't think it should be kept from the other. I wonder if there is a traditional teaching that keeps those two things in harmony. (21:02) Mary - How do I communicate using the 4 four horsemen method. I need help doing it correctly. (38:23) Ron - Can I be forgiven for hurting my wife even when I’ve been to confession for it. Can I receive or do I have to go back to confession? (46:37)

Mary Bowen joins Doug to give an update on her lawsuit against the Texas no fault divorce law. Listener questions and comments: Ronnie - My parents got a divorce when I was in my 30s and it hurt me. (17:05) Patrick - When you go through divorce, you feel like a criminal. I went through it and it was humiliating. (19:36) John - If you have a marriage partner that has a mental illness (bipolar), how do you work with that in a Catholic marriage? (23:08) Marilyn - My granddaughter wants a divorce. As a grandma, what should I do? They've been married for 14 years and have 4 boys. (39:32) Don - My wife left me legally and I have tried reaching out to redeem the marriage. It’s been 6 years so what do I do? (44:40) Jose - My wife decided she wants a divorce and she says this is what God wants. (47:40) Resources: Primal Loss https://www.leilamiller.net/primallosspdf

Doug shares how to handle the challenges when and elderly parent moves in with you. Listener questions and comments: Matt - I have been married for 20 years. I have a continued pattern of not telling the truth. My wife has had enough. What should I do? (6:22) Addison - We moved in with my father-in-law. He's 86 now. It has been hard, but really beautiful since our son is 8 years old. My biggest advice is to have those memories, and try and have your own time. Sit around the table and have dinner together. (11:51) Rose - Mom moved in with me. I feel called by God to take care of my mom. I fell back on that when stressed. My mom is 98 and I am grateful. (21:47) Mary - It was my mother who lived with my whole family and it was a great experience. (26:20) Gina - My mom is in a private home, I only had her for a month. She had bathroom issues, and drove husband crazy. She loves the private home. (29:37) Liz - My mom lived with us and had dementia. My husband and kids helped take care of her. Don't lose that…

Monica Hinderer joins Doug to discuss toxic empathy. They also discuss questions on marital infidelity, and healing past wounds. Listener questions and comments: Juan - I have been married for 15 years and my wife thinks I'm cheating. (4:04) Joe - Does marriage counseling help heal past wounds such as infidelity? (18:37) Don - I've experienced toxic empathy and also the other marital issues fueled by toxic empathy. (41:13) Gloria - My husband was unfaithful, but doesn't want to go to counseling. Should I still go to counseling myself? (47:51) Resources: Monica Hinderer https://www.monicahinderer.com/ Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/ Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/ Emotionally Focused Therapy https://iceeft.com/ Catholic Therapists https://catholictherapists.com/ Catholic Psychotherapy https://catholicpsychotherapy.org/

Bear Woznick joins Doug to discuss his two books; 12 Rules for Manliness, and Men of Grit and Grace. Listener questions and comments: John - I have family history of the cowboy code! (36:28) Resources: School of Manliness https://www.bearschoolofmanliness.com/

Sam Hodges joins Doug to discuss grief. They explore practical ways to support someone who is grieving, how people process grief differently, and what grief can look like in marriage and everyday life. They also take listener calls from people sharing their own experiences with grief. Listener questions and comments: Sophie - My husband is mad at God and got away from his faith. Should I stay with this person? We are both Catholic and didn’t get married in the Church. (22:08) Mare - The best thing I ever did was get involved in a Catholic group for grief. My grief was due to my father not really being my biological father. (31:07) Stephen - I lost my son in 2023 and I feel God and the Church has brought me through this. (37:16) Brian - My daughter was killed several years ago and I am dealing with the pain. I ended up having an affair and almost lost my marriage. (41:36) Judy - I attended grief share and I am now helping run it at my church It helps so many people! (45:56) Resources: GriefShare…

Doug shares the number one rule in dating and discusses questions that must be answered to really get to know someone well. Listener questions and comments: Leslie - My husband died on April 2nd and we didn’t end on a good note and I don’t have closure. (12:17) Ray - I have noticed that girls will talk very loosely and tell stories about their sex lives. What should we do to address it or ignore. (18:03) Patricia - I am dealing with strife between multiple generations in my family. (22:52) Resources: Catholic Christianity https://ignatius.com/catholic-christianity-cachp/ Highlights of the Catholic Faith https://www.amazon.com/dp/1948139847?lv=shuf&channelId=500&plpRedirect=mhFallback Why We're Catholic: Our Reasons for Faith, Hope, and Love https://www.amazon.com/dp/1683570243?lv=shuf&channelId=500&plpRedirect=mhFallback Catholicism: A Journey to the Heart of the Faith https://www.amazon.com/dp/0307720519?lv=shuf&channelId=500&plpRedirect=mhFallback

Doug talks with his daughter Emily about seeing the beatification of Bishop Sheen in person. Doug also covers a few listener emails before getting into dating advice, including conversion to Catholicism within a marriage, jealousy in relationships, and navigating purity while dating. Listener Questions and Comments: Matt - Should I pursue conversion to Catholicism at the expense of my marriage? He has been married for seven years but is being drawn to Catholicism, and his wife is not very happy about it. (11:51) Mark - Words of encouragement for Matt. As a CCD teacher married to a Jewish woman, Mark shares how his wife eventually converted after 30 years and how they have had a beautiful marriage. (29:01) Ray: How should you approach jealousy? He suggests having Doug and Timmerie together on a show to offer both the male and female perspectives on dating and marriage. (31:07) Samantha - How do you maintain purity while dating when you and your partner are not on the same page? She asks when it is time to…

Monica and Doug discuss postpartum depression and psychosis, what can be done to treat them, and how to equip children who hear about these difficult cases. Listener questions and comments: Celeste: I experienced psychosis two years ago and struggled with a split personality. (11:20) Rose: I experienced postpartum depression and want to share my happy ending. (29:35) Cynthia: I never planned to have children and did not have a maternal instinct. My husband wanted seven children, and after having children, natural births, and breastfeeding for two years each, I became very maternal and developed a strong bond with my children. I never experienced postpartum depression. (41:06)

Are you married to someone struggling with an addiction that is damaging your marriage? Doug welcomes Scott Weeman, founder of Catholics in Recovery, to explore the roots of addiction and how people can begin the path toward healing and freedom. Listener questions and comments: Charlie – I have been in Al-Anon and found a “Letter to an Alcoholic” especially helpful. I want to share how it helped me. (18:26) Joe – I spent 12 hours on YouTube yesterday and realized I am addicted. How can I break this habit? (26:39) Dawn – I am in a 12-step program and want to share how it has helped me recognize the ways my own behavior has affected my family. (39:09) Resources: Al-Anon https://al-anon.org/ AA https://www.aa.org/ Catholics in recovery https://catholicinrecovery.com/

Doug discusses several marriage topics including: complaining, where to find a good husband, and female breadwinners. He also shares several quotes to strengthen marriage. Listener questions and comments: Robert - My wife and I have been married for 20 years and I have a problem where I lie about small things. (11:18) Jade - I found out my boyfriend is cheating. He says he wants to marry me. Should we continue? (23:28) Mark - Comment: Jade seems like the forgiving type but she can’t trust him until he gives her time to show it. (40:33) Josh - The Bible says that men are to be the providers for the home so when people go against what God already set up it, doesn’t go well. (42:38) Resources: Emotionally Focused Therapy https://iceeft.com/

Dr. Bobby Jakucs joins Doug to discuss insomnia and nightmares and their impact on marriage. Listener questions and comments: Monique - I have long days starting at 2 AM and ending at 9 PM so I have a lack of sleep. Is there anything I can do because I am burned out. (11:50) Dave - I am semi-retired. I feel like I am over sleeping. What should I do? (22:05) Joanne - I have a nightmare where someone is chasing me and I scream in my dream but I wake up my husband. (25:16) James - My son is going through mental issues and is taking melatonin but it’s giving him bad side effects and it’s not his favorite. What other options are there? (32:02) Frank - I fall asleep quick but I wake up every hour or so. (40:01) Rich - When I can’t sleep, I start praying the Chaplet of Divine Mercy. I fall asleep before it’s over. (42:23) Laura - Seroquel is known to cause nightmares. (44:03) Mary - I only sleep 5 hours a night and I am 73 years old. I used to work nights and I wonder if that’s ok? (46:22) Resources: Take Courage…

Doug unpacks a case study of an impossible marriage redeemed. In his story, the wife is shocked to learn that her husband was having an affair with a “friend”. Doug also responds to an email from a man whose wife refuses forgiveness and respect. PLUS: The Friday Rant! Listener questions and comments: Jane - One good way to go about asking a man out is through mutual friends and having a mutual gathering. (33:32) Resources: Impossible Marriages Redeemed https://www.leilamiller.net/impossiblemarriagesredeemedpdf https://www.amazon.com/dp/B086FS9XCW?lv=shuf&language=he&channelId=500&plpRedirect=mhFallback Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/ Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/ Catholic Therapists https://catholictherapists.com/ Catholic Psychotherapy https://catholicpsychotherapy.org/

How can pornography destroy a marriage? Should a couple get married in the Church after an 11-year civil marriage? What should you do if your wife is withholding forgiveness? Doug goes to the mailbag answering these questions and more. Listener questions and comments: John - I have been married for several years and my wife was unfaithful. We separated physically but then got back together. Now there is a separation on my part mentally that I can’t get over. (15:37) Mary Ann - When there is someone dressed immodestly my husband doesn’t distance himself and I wish he would. (22:26) Melissa - My daughter is a hoarder and her husband yelled at her and pushed around because of it. (28:47) Resources: Loving Him Through Sexual Addiction https://relevantradio.com/2026/09/loving-him-through-sexual-addiction/ Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/ Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/ Catholic Therapists https://catholictherapists.com/ Catholic Psychotherapy…

Special guest Bishop Michael Burbidge joins Doug to discuss his pastoral letter, The Divine Physician and a Christian Approach to Mental Health and Wellbeing. Listener questions and comments: Deedee - I have been in a state of spiritual complacency. Is this a spiritual or mental issue? (37:08) Resources: The Divine Physician and a Christian Approach to Mental Health and Wellbeing https://www.arlingtondiocese.org/2026/01/20/the-divine-physician-and-a-christian-approach-to-mental-health-and-wellbeing/ El Médico Divino y un enfoque cristiano de la salud mental y el bienestar. https://www.arlingtondiocese.org/es/2026/01/20/the-divine-physician-and-a-christian-approach-to-mental-health-and-wellbeing/ Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/ Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/ Catholic Therapists https://catholictherapists.com/ Catholic Psychotherapy https://catholicpsychotherapy.org/ When you need to see a therapist When you are stuck Your emotions become difficult to…

Dann and Roxane Aungst join Doug. Roxane discusses her reality during the 25 years of Dann’s sexual addiction. Listener questions and comments: Maria - How do you look at your wife now? How did you overcome these emotions after such a long addiction? (22:43) Susan - Listening to this is very difficult. My daughter's husband was introduced to porn at 10 years old and it destroyed their marriage. She left him and is living with another man. Do you have any advice? (25:32) Yolanda - What you are saying is beautiful but my husband is very proud. It's still hurting us. (40:18) Resources: Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/ Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/ Road to Purity https://roadtopurity.com/

Doug shares three tips from St. Bernard on gaining wisdom and explores how to apply them to our marriages today. Listener questions and comments: Brian - Somebody came into my life briefly and because of my life issues they left. How do I move on or get them back? (21:52) Jessica - I don’t like the way my daughter dresses or the music she likes. How do I address this tension? (25:49) Noah - I am currently living in Utah and there aren’t many Catholics. What should I do? (33:40) Allen - The Philippines are about to legalize divorce. Muslims are protesting but the Catholics seem to be silent. What are your thoughts? (37:49) Lindsey - My mom is not Catholic and my family members are convinced she will go straight to heaven. Is this true? (40:38) Resources: Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/ Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/ St. Bernard of Clairvaux on gaining wisdom Give thanks and praise Go to confession Be prudent in desire and speech

Dr. Julia Dezelski joins Doug to discuss USCCB resources available for married and dating couples. Listener questions and comments: Chris - When I got married, there was very little marriage preparation. This needs to be a bigger emphasis. (22:41) Walt - It seems like in modern culture it seems like children are an add-on and not the focus. Is this being addressed? (31:14) Margy - There is very little available for people getting remarried in the Church and for those who have annulments. (38:25) Resources: Catechumenal pathways for married life – Free PDF https://www.laityfamilylife.va/content/dam/laityfamilylife/amoris-laetitia/OrientamentiCatecumenatomatrimoniale/Catechumenal%20Pathways_ENG.pdf Catechumenal pathways for married life - Book https://www.orderosv.com/product/catechumenal-pathways-for-married-life?ga_ref_list_id=75ga_ref_list_name=Related%20Products Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/ For Your Marriage https://www.foryourmarriage.org/ https://www.portumatrimonio.org/…

Doug discusses an email from a woman concerned that her husband works excessively and is pressuring her to take on full-time work as well. She worries that this dynamic is harming their marriage and family life. Doug emphasizes the importance of being present for one’s spouse and children and making family a top priority. Listener questions and comments: Josephina - My husband and I are one of the couples who work a lot. I am comparing myself to the lady from the email, but at the same time I am also a workaholic sometimes. (19:28) Matt - I work 12-15 hours a day, and I am in a courtship right now. I find that if you really love them, that sacrifice shouldn’t take that much to make it happen. I want to also say that waiting till marriage is so worth it. (23:28) Richard - My son wants to get married, and the issue we come across is that his girlfriend is Catholic, but she is not practicing. (27:49) Fernando - At what point is doing everything for her happiness not ok if I start suffering? (38:09) Rex - I…

Doug discusses why you won’t find Eden here on earth and also tackles emails from couples who are struggling in their marriages. Listener questions and comments: Richard - We have been married for 16 years but every time we go to put the sheets on the bed we end in a fight. (21:19) Alex - We have been separated for a year now and my husband suffers with addiction and infidelity. I just filled divorce today. (26:00) Mary - Comment for Alex: I have a book recommendation for her. 'Marriage 911'. (43:33) Maria - I am Catholic but I deal with spiritual warfare. My daughter got married to someone with demonic tattoos all over his body and they practice witchcraft. (44:56) Resources: Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/ Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/ Marriage 911 https://www.foryourmarriage.org/blogs/marriage-911-how-god-saved-our-marriage-and-can-save-yours-too/ Questions to ask your spouse when facing divorce What’s one thing I am doing that I should stop doing?…

Dr. Chris Ebberwein joins Doug to discuss his book, The Cana Rosary: A Couple's Prayer. Resources: The Cana Rosary: A Couple's Prayer https://www.amazon.com/Cana-Rosary-Couples-Prayer/dp/1502392232 Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/ Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/

Fr. Peter Armenio joins Doug to discuss marriage and spousal love from his book Highlights of the Catholic Faith. Listener questions and comments: Josephina - I went to confession, and I was able to apologize to my husband. It opened up the world of forgiveness. (19:55) Deedee - I have been married twice, and both men are deceased. What is the Catholic position on getting married a third time? (37:07) Walter - The world we live in is so materialistic and disposable. It’s also happened in marriages. People use their spouse and then throw them away. (38:34) Angel - I was on a few weeks ago talking about my fiancé. He is a general overseas, and he has issues that are getting worse. What do I do? (44:12) Resources: Highlights of the Catholic Faith https://scepterpublishers.org/products/highlights-of-the-catholic-faith?srsltid=AfmBOop9iajSrMyZXnB-F1IOgNAr4ds-bYR_aYazTW52vhQd5KlqrQkp

Mark Swartzberg joins Doug to discuss his conversion to the Catholic Church, family life, and his journey to Relevant Radio. Listener questions and comments: • Brian - What are the specifics on the validity of the marriage and the sacramentality of marrying a non-Catholic? (40:28)

Catherine DiNuzzo joins Doug to discuss anxiety from a Catholic perspective. They define good vs bad anxiety, the problem of guilt, and how to manage anxiety as a Catholic. Listener questions and comments: Jasmine - How do I fight my mind that triggers anxiety even if I’m doing okay? (10:19) Rose - I get anxiety around my kids, but I don’t want to share with my kids. What do I say? (35:21) Judy - I have had anxiety when other people are driving. What should I do? (39:59) Resources: Sacred Heart Mental Wellness https://www.sacredheartmentalwellness.com/

Are you a victim of a no-fault divorce? Today, Mary Bowen joins Doug to discuss her efforts to overturn Texas's no-fault divorce law. Listener questions and comments: Patrick - I went through a no-fault divorce, and my wife threatened to say 'cruel and unusual punishment,' which means she is mean to me. (23:37) Karen - This happened to me, and they called it irreconcilable differences. It feels like your spouse and court are against you. It’s been 22 years, and you feel like you made a mistake. (35:57) Steve - I want to support you, and let’s get this done in Texas! (37:50) Stan - I went through one, and I want to tell you that this should be a class lawsuit. I don’t know how you can do this on your own. (38:57) Frank - What hope do you have for people who are happily married? What signs should we look for to prevent this? (40:51) Tony - My wife alienated my daughter from me and would turn my kids against me, and now my kids are getting divorced. I am a stander as well. (45:24) Resources:…

Relationship coach Rose Sweet joins Doug to discuss the foundations of good marriages. Listener questions and comments: Denise - My boyfriend’s best friend is a concern to me. He wants me to meet her and her husband. I feel weird about it. (9:20) Shirley - My daughter is 'Christian' but has a second marriage. The kid from the first marriage still lives at home at 34. Is my daughter putting her kids before her husband? (18:46) LeeAnn - I was in a friendship with a guy, but then he got married, and I took the hint and distanced myself from him. (25:34) Resources: Rules for relationships Listen Lead Love Let go Rose Sweet https://rosesweet.com/

Doug shares the top reasons why people get divorced and gives to ultimate advice to not just avoid divorce, but to have a great marriage. Listener questions and comments: Ellie - Do you have any tips for when we’re struggling with something but don’t communicate it because we’re worried it might seem irrational or unfair to the other person? Sometimes that fear of how it will be perceived can stop us from communicating altogether. (26:28) Resources: Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/ Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/ Why couples get divorced Poor communication Loss of trust Financial disagreements Emotional neglect (Matrimonial laziness) Unresolved conflict Changing personal goals and lifestyles The ultimate marriage advice Plan daily prayer for and with your spouse Plan to do a good deed for your spouse every day Apologize and forgive always

Doug wraps up his discussion of 15 ways to strengthen your marriage and shares tips for planning 5 fun at-home dates. PLUS: The Friday Rant. Listener question and comments: Alex - I would like to become Catholic but my wife does not and I want to know what to do. We have 5 kids. (8:25) R.J. - I could use some advice on being a grandparent. I’m going down to help my son out, and it’s been a while since I’ve been around the kids. I want to make sure I’m helpful and know how to best be there for them. (43:41) Resources: Making Marriage Stronger (Part 1) https://relevantradio.com/2026/08/making-marriage-stronger/ Gottman Card Decks https://www.gottman.com/couples/apps/ Ways to strengthen your marriage Start with small rituals Listen like you actually mean it Schedule some fun time together Speak appreciation out loud Keep learning about each other Handle conflict without keeping score Share household responsibilities evenly Put the phone down Support each other’s interests Laugh together when life gets tense…

Monica Hinderer joins Doug to address challenging family and marriage issues, including OCD and ADHD, pornography, and infidelity. They offer guidance for navigating hurt, betrayal, and difficult relationships. Listener questions and comments: Kate - My daughter-in-law has OCD and ADHD and is very attached to her family. (8:18) Maria - I found my husband watching porn. I don’t know what to do and I am embarrassed. (21:12) Dan - I find that withholding sex from a spouse only makes things worse when dealing with my own porn addiction. (37:49) Mary - I found out that my husband has been unfaithful before marriage and then during marriage. What should I do? (42:38) Resources: Monica Hinderer https://www.monicahinderer.com/ Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change https://bit.ly/4cKsoRU Get Your Loved One Sober: Alternatives to Nagging, Pleading, and Threatening https://bit.ly/4xrRpd3

Doug shares 8 ways to strengthen your marriage. Listener questions and comments: Linda - What if you do these things but they aren't reciprocated. (20:09) Resources: Catholic Catch Singles Trivia Pre-Registration https://forms.cloud.microsoft/pages/responsepage.aspx?id=o-0BRmklpkqOCzBfwpVBLl-LqlRwJghFqZHL9AOb2yNUNDVNSzUzWEdUMzQzRDlTRU5aT0FPSzdFQyQlQCNjPTEu&route=shorturl Gottman Card Decks https://www.gottman.com/couples/apps/ Ways to strengthen your marriage Start with small rituals Listen like you actually mean it Schedule some fun time together Speak appreciation out loud Keep learning about each other Handle conflict without keeping score Share household responsibilities evenly Put the phone down

Dr. Christine Bacon joins Doug to discuss her Super Couple Formula for couples who desire a long and happy marriage. Listener questions and comments: Jessica - My husband will ask me to validate his hurtful comments about my own family members if they did something wrong to him. (21:43) Brian - How in marriage do you apply forgive and forget? how do you realistically argue without letting past issues come up again. (38:39) Resources: The Super Couple: A Formula for Extreme Happiness in Marriage https://www.amazon.com/Super-Couple-Formula-Happiness-Marriage/dp/1633932036 Super Couple Formula Selflessness Attentiveness Communication Respect Encouragement Deliberateness

What happens when single women start attending a married guys’ breakfast after Mass? How do you heal a marriage after a wife discovers her husband’s past porn use? Doug goes to the mailbag to answer these questions and more. Listener questions and comments: Betsy — I wouldn’t want to know. It would be too much for me. (14:34) Rosie — I think it is irrelevant to bring up watching porn if it happened in the past. You are not defined by your mistakes. (19:48) Marie — I was married to someone who was into porn for 20 years before the marriage, and it continued during the marriage. We are divorced now. (22:25) Steven — I struggled with porn before marriage. I confessed it to my wife, and she has helped me stay pure. (28:02) Lisette — It would have been nice to know during the engagement process, but I don’t think I would want to know now. (32:34) Marie — I think one of the reasons porn is so bad is that it gives a man an unrealistic version of women. My son pointed out that women also do this with romance novels,…

Doug celebrates the beauty of marriage. Listeners share brief stories of love and commitment. Their stories highlight faith, devotion, and lasting love. Niki - I married my high school sweetheart and we went through the motions with our faith but recently we have come together and are closer to God. We are now expecting a baby after 6 years of infertility. (8:47) Colleen - My husband noticed me in high school. He was a JV basketball player and I was a cheerleader. (11:09) Elizabeth - My husband saved my life on the second date. We have been married for 30 years. (22:26) Joseph - I met my wife in 1984 and we got married in 1992. I knew within 2 weeks that I would marry her. I prayed to the Blessed Mother and she sent me my wife. (30:36) Laura - My husband and I met in college. I am a Cubs fan and he is a Cardinals fan. When I flew home for a break and I got turned around in St Louis, he turned around and came back to get me. (32:51) Alyssa - We met during our youth group days and we finally got married.…

Monica Hinderer joins Doug for a thoughtful conversation about the challenges of parenting, the importance of community and support, and navigating emotions during conflict. Listener questions and comments: Chris - My wife and daughter get into fights and my daughter is only 7. I need advice. (27:29) Roger - My daughter is moving in with her boyfriend. What should I do? (44:03) Resources: Monica Hinderer https://www.monicahinderer.com/

How do you respond when you get cancelled by your daughter-in-law? What do you do when your husband’s brain surgery changes his personality and he is very abusive? Doug goes to the mailbag answering these questions and more. Listener questions and comments: Deedee - Applause to Doug for answering that question well. Jesus said to forgive 7 x 70 times. (19:29)

Is it appropriate for someone of the opposite sex to give your spouse a massage at work? Can fasting result in a happier marriage? Where do you draw the line with verbally abusive teenagers? Doug answers these questions and more. Listener questions and comments: Colleen - I totally agree that the massage is not ok. But you glossed over him saying 'you didn’t have permission'. That’s a red flag in my book. (15:31) Resources: Monica Hinderer https://www.monicahinderer.com/

Dr. Johann D’Souza joins Doug to discuss the inverted family. They unpack the dynamic of the anxious mother and explore the importance of the father taking a leading role in protecting and guiding his family amid the pressures of the culture. Listener questions and comments: Maria - My granddaughter is 28. She said to me, 'I choose to have you out of my life'. What do I do? (32:28) Resources: https://www.johanndsouza.com/neversmartphone

What should you do when you learn something shocking about your spouse that happened many years ago? How should you deal with loneliness in marriage? Doug answers these questions and more. Listener questions and comments: Mark - Responding to the email about an invalid marriage: Deceit alone is not going to make a marriage invalid. (36:06) Resources: Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/ The Forgiveness Institute https://internationalforgiveness.com/ Marriage Unhindered shows on forgiveness https://relevantradio.com/?cat=26671&s=Forgiveness Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love https://www.amazon.com/Eight-Dates-Essential-Conversations-Lifetime/dp/1523504463 Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage https://www.amazon.com/Lessons-Transform-Your-Marriage-Strengthening/dp/1400050197